R U OK? I ask, and am asked, this question all the time because it’s an important way to start a conversation. Nine times out of ten, the answer will be ‘yeah’ even when the person is not OK.

I often say ‘yeah’ when I’m not OK. I might not want to talk about it there and then, you might not be the right person for me to open up to, I might be worried about how you’re going to react and the expectations I put on myself to act as a result of admitting I’m not OK.

But I’ve never not appreciated being asked.

Keep asking. Because on the tenth occasion when someone needs your support, you’ll want to be there.